Former FBI Agent: If They Do This Please RUN! Narcissists Favourite Trick To Control You!
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- Former FBI Agent
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- ~4 min
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- 21 Apr 2025
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KEYPOINTS
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25 years FBI human-behavior lens: if they do X, RUN — narcissist/manipulator detection as civilian skill.
Former agent: study needs/heuristics; freeze response to loud sound/predator is ancient. Apply knowledge → never be manipulated the same way. People rarely say 'I have fears' — they say concerned/investment doubt.
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Pain that she was abducted on his duty night still weighs — case residue.
Empathy cost of the job. Nervous stomach client meetings as somatic tell of bad actors.
- 03
Don't stand over children like drill instructor — simple parenting body placement.
Nobody teaches; he does. Side-by-side vs towering changes attachment.
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Heuristics: freeze, flee, fight — predators exploit freeze.
300,000-year survival software. Valuable gift is naming underpinnings of behaviour.
- 05
Money spent training people to 'be American' misses hostility-reporting purpose — context of intelligence work.
Purpose clarity. Business is people business once needs understood.
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Sleep poorly / nervous stomach after certain clients — body as early warning.
How long will you tolerate that? Run cues.
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Love when people see behaviour foundations — teachable moment.
Advantage of reading underpinnings. Never-manipulated-again promise if applied.
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Biological needs + learned patterns = readable map.
Commitment: if you do the work of noticing, he delivers tools.
EXAMPLES
- 01
25 years FBI behaviour study.
Authority base.
- 02
Abduction-on-duty night lasting pain.
Case residue.
- 03
Freeze heuristic vs predator.
Ancient software.
- 04
Drill-instructor stance over kids — don't.
Parenting cue.
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Nervous stomach after bad clients.
Somatic tell.
OTHER RELEVANT
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Trust nervous-stomach clients/partners — exit criteria.
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Parents: kneel/side-by-side, not towering drill stance.
Name fears directly instead of investment euphemisms.
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Study needs underneath demands — people business.
Don't ignore duty-residue trauma — get support.